Help with my immature mother?
Feb 18
Cauliflower_Power asked:
Recently my mother has become very hard to deal with. I am 16, so I’ll try explain my situation properly, and if you think I’m just being a hormonal teenager, then just say, I want to know your honest thoughts.
My mother is a solo mother, and has a pretty reasonable job, enough to support our family anyway, and there’s just me, as my older sister is in university (which my mum is not paying for).
So recently things have happened, the most recent I can think of, is today, as our school year has just started, I asked her for money to buy the textbooks. She said no, she didn’t have much (about $100 for the textbooks) and that I’d have to buy them with my own money (Which I earn through my job), and that she’d pay me back later. So I bought my books, and when I came home, I found a new pair of shoes she’d just purchased. That left me very mad, but was nothing compared to what happened later.
So I like to save most of my money to buy things, last time I bought myself a laptop, and at the moment I;m saving to go overseas to China for a month, like I did last year. So she came into my room (okay cue hormonal teenager: While I was having a rare phone conversation with one of my good friends from Norway) and requested $600 for an impulse buy of a laptop she’d previously made (She doesn’t even know how to use a computer). She kept pressuring me, so I put the money in her bank account, and though she promised to pay me back I later erupted at her.
I said things along the lines of, it wasn’t up to me to be there for her to fall back on financially, especially when she could easily be managing her money better. Her latest buy was to a $300 belly dancing course. I said it was ridiculous that I was the one who was able to save and manage money, but she was the one who needed too.
I mean I’m sorry, but I think borrowing $600 from your child is just going over the top, was I wrong to scream at her for not being able to manage her money the way she should?
All my money is money I earn from my job, even though she receives a lot of child support from my dad.
